Happy Thanksgiving 2013.
In America, it is easy to compare ourselves to others who have so much more than we do, because America is a place of great wealth all around us.
It is not a bad thing to compare if we do NOT harbor ill feelings, envy and jealousy towards those who have worked hard to make their surroundings lovely, clean and full of nice things.
Only we should compare, to be happy for others who have these things, and then let it inspire us to build the same and surround ourselves and loved ones with this same, IF we so desire. Some are very happy in a small mud hut, dirt floor, and only fish to catch and eat for the day.
Again, we can NOT judge others 'happiness' either, based on the above scenario stated.
This day reminds me of my wonderful, God-fearing, highly respected and revered ancestor William Bradford, credited for this National Holiday. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/William_Bradford_(Plymouth_Colony_governor)
When I think of my geneology line of my Father Howard Hatch side, of his 10 siblings, and my Hatch Grandparents and their awesome pioneer heritage, I can't help but notice that these people (yes all of them) are deeply 'thankful', Godly, respectful, intelligent and full of Charity people, in general and in character. They believe in Jesus Christ and it clearly shows throughout their lives here on Earth.
I am thankful to have come from such a wonderful legacy of 'Good' people.
William Bradford, who was credited for the first Thanksgiving in the United States, and his Thankful spirit have truly followed down generations through his Grand-daughter Wealtha Bradford, who married a Hatch, on down to myself and my own brothers and sisters.
When I was young, I did not pay much attention to detail to my genealogy, but now that I am doing my husbands genealogy and have a great love for family, I have made these observations of my family, their characters, and my great lineage of fine, intelligent, Godly people who have set the tone for who I and we are, as a family.
I can choose to ignore my past and the great history I come from, as my brainwashed Holler children do, or I can embrace it as who I am, and a great part of me.
I have noticed that as I do this, I have come to see that my lineage is one of great importance, great Godly power, good influences, and respectful people who expect the same of me.
WHO wouldn't want to align themselves with this GREAT lineage?? (someone ashamed of themselves?)
On the day I let go (when I was in my 30's) of my childish hurts, foolish imaginations, perceived wrongs done to me by God, is the day that I slowly let God back into my life! I slowly began to trust him to guide my life again, as I had done my first 17 years of life.
Painfully, It worked the other way too. God slowly began to trust me again over many years and I suffered greatly because of this.
Although it has not been easy, it has been worth it.
You are nothing without Charity (the pure love of Christ in your heart)...and I learned this the hard way. A way I share never forget.
So on this day of giving 'Thanks', I am deeply grateful for an Awesome Heritage and for those who lead the way before me, and their great example, so that in my life I can live up to those high standards and proudly admit that I am among those great and honorable people who, because of their great wisdom, goodness and Godliness, gave so much and were 'persecuted' for their righteous.
I am thankful that God lead me to a God fearing 'soulmate' Mr. Silvio R. Acosta, who loves me and my family members, no matter what. Physically times have been hard sometimes, but my heart and spirit are content, happy, and at peace living with a Godly man, who deeply loves even my Holler children.
I am thankful for my Holler boys, even though I am greatly disappointed in their hatred, disrespect, unkindness and at times extreme bad behavior. I know that most of this comes from their father's (Bernd Holler) example and teachings, because this is what I lived with when I was married to him for 14 years. (1987-2001)
I had to identify with him, just to keep peace in our home. I had to forgo my own beliefs, wishes, and do things that were against my own deeply held beliefs and desires in order to what I thought I needed to have a 'healthy' relationship with the person I dedicated myself to be 'married to'. So how can I not see that this is what my children are living and experiencing.
They believe, for now, what I believed in up to my 30's, because I was not strong enough to stand on my own and NOT be persuaded by that highly controlled relationship. They live the same, and I see it in each one of them. They express one way...and then out of fear...they live another. I am greatly sad for them...as this (so often misunderstood) abuse is overlooked.
I pray that my children understand that much of my 'no contact' with them has stemmed from my GREAT need to protect innocent people and especially their youngest brother from bitter, angry, hostile, violent people who would harm them, and Alex, and many innocent people if we had contact with my Holler boys, and that these hostile bitter people are the ones keeping us apart.
Only THEY (my children) have the power to separate themselves (as Alex has) from these bitter, angry people and to come home to find the eternal love and peace their mother has always had for them!!
When they were born, I truly believed that they would grow to be protective, kind, respectful young men who would always protect their mother no matter what. Hopefully someday they will mature into these type of valiant men.
It is a known fact and taught at all Universities that people who live through abuse go on to abuse... but that 50% of them stop the abuse either through extreme personal determination to never be apart of the abuse and spread it, and/or through Education (educating themselves to a different way of life)
I pray continually that they will educated themselves, have deep seeded desire to break the abuse and stop the Holler generation curse; as Bernd Holler is so keenly aware exists in his family, since we had many discussions of this subject before and after we were married. (See http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/co-parenting-after-divorce/201304/the-impact-parental-alienation-children)
I pray continually that they will learn of their great 'Hatch heritage' and how important this righteous blood flowing through them is - giving them a great honor, favortism, and tender love in the sight of God and they are important human beings on this planet, if they would only let go and trust in God and believe!!
I am thankful this day to have a 'new home' in which to call my own and all the fun I have been having remodeling it and preparing it for future family.
I am deeply thankful for all the new friends, family and people who surround us, love us and protect us.
I could go on and on, but I think I will go make a nice breakfast. and then scrumptous dinner, for those I love and serve. Busy, busy, busy....
Have a WONDERFUL and deeply grateful day and rest of the Holidays this season...
Humbly, Gratefully and Respectfully,
The great-great-great-great....granddaughter of the great William Bradford,
Elisabeth Hatch Acosta